I’ll finish this posting I started December 3:

My daughter, after not wanting to eat her dinner, finally made it into hysterics, then oversalted her chili and when she ate the cold, oversalted chili between sobs she ended up barfing it out.

I don’t know how we’re going to get her to eat chili again. This is the girl who at least weekly reminds us about the time she barfed up a bean and cheese quesadilla for some unknown reason (my wife and I ate the same thing and didn’t get sick) and on nights where she’s eating food she’s not keen on, sandbags like the best of them. She knows how to work a dinner table filibuster.

She'll eat these, she'll eat ANY candy.

We did a few Christmas activities through December – though we’re sort of on the hunt for traditions to call our own.

Light for light, flame for heat

We hit the local live nativity, put on by the Faith Baptist church. It’s probably the most organized and friendly event this size that was not a football game I’d ever seen (note: I’m not a member of Faith Baptist). When we drove in they directed us to a specific parking spot, directed in by an attentive 12-year old. Everyone told us where to go, which checkpoint to go to next, and told us Merry Christmas. It was freezing, snowing during our quick 14-minute or so trip round the church to each of the stations. Our 4-year old daughter, Min, took the whole thing very seriously – after a couple of attempted explanations (“Sweetie, that’s the Garden of Eden, that’s Adam…”) she told us not to talk to her until it was over. There were CD players with explanations at each stop. When we tried to teach, for example with some of the more abstract set pieces, she would say “Remember what I told you?” So we waited. The best one, for my money (it was free), was the nativity itself – there was no dialogue, no acting, just a kind of cold and worried looking young couple and a plastic baby in a dark little manger, off in the corner of the lot. I probably read too much into it but wondered, realistically, how the night felt for Mary and Joseph and how they probably didn’t have all sorts of visitors that night and went through all of those emotions new parents have where they worry, are grateful, happy, overwhelmed, sad, tired. The cruxifiction scene was fairly tastefully done, with three crosses facing away from the visitors, wooden thieves and Jesus, a weeping Mary, and some naysayers there giving wooden Jesus grief. This was affecting for Min, who said it was one of her favorite parts, another kid we met in the commuinity center said the same thing and was working through that they were made of wood, so the blood on the wood legs was fake. Kids seem to zoom in on gore and tragedy. One of the highlights, honestly, was that when we were done and had some cookies and chocolate and got to our car, is that we were out of the lot in about 4 minutes. Those guys have their stuff together.

from left to right, Ed, Santa's Tummy, Min

We also hit the Children’s Museum on the 23rd and saw Santa. Hoorah. It took about 50 minutes in line, so Mary went in and out with the kids while I stood in line and made periodic light conversation with the couple behind us. Santa himself had a real white beard (which one would expect, I guess) and took his time talking to Min, who pretty much didn’t know what to do with herself. He was pretty good. She put her wish list in his sleigh and we moved on.

From youngest to oldest, Dog, and Squirrel

As far as the Christmas itself – we dialed down on gifts to the parents and focused on making sure the kids got what they wanted (that Santa knew about it) mainly out of lack of energy or time to shop, mainly. Maybe next year we’ll try something a friend suggested, just three gifts for the kids to represent the gifts of the magi, to combat the ever-increasing feeling of riding a consumerist avalanche through the month. One gift I did get from my kids (I’m told on good authority from the Goodwill) was a dog and squirrel, representing my kids, who I referred to as a squirrel and little puppy as toddlers. So finally I have something to decorate my office at work.

Big Ed was married yesterday and we came down to see it in Alabama then Georgia for the reception. It was about a twelve hour drive and the kids were better than we thought on the way down. Mostly. It could also be that I’m no longer in the car with them so everything seems fine. Tonight’s the reception then tomorrow back home.

This place is humid – we thought the Midwest was humid, compared to Utah (motto: the dryness builds character!) but this is a whole new level. The news this morning indicated humidity was 100%. That means, basically, it’s easier to pick out the androids because eveyone sweats equally – there is no summer sweet.

Minnie earned a trip to Chuck-E-Cheese by sleeping all night in her bed, unloading the silverware from the dishwasher, and other behavior requiring a bribe. When we went online to find coupons and found that this is a common reward. Who says behaviorism is dead? We took their chart and got some extra tokens. Our own chart took into account what I learned about motivation through my program:

Behaviorism in action
Behaviorism in action

She got a treat from the store after 7 stickers and after 7 sets of those she got a trip to the Chuck. That may seem rough – whaddayado, we’re penny-pinching hardnoses. It worked, though – short enough rewards that she got something, but one big one at the end that would keep her motivated after the candy from the store started getting passé.

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Eddie’s top two teeth just came in.

Apparently it’s painful. Reminds me of this:

Saw the Williamsport Waterfall with some friends on memorial day. Short hike, more wet than tough-going, as we’d previously heard. After playing in the water a little we ate and I tagged along on my first geocache hunt (unsuccessful) while Mary and the other crew wandered around town looking for ice cream or restrooms.